Being a parent is both endearing and daunting at the same time. Children are prone to throwing tantrums between the ages of 2-4. This behavior is partly due to the frustration of not being able to communicate what they want clearly. The next time you feel embarrassed when your child has an emotional outburst, know you’re not alone. Here are 5 ways you to take charge of the situation.
- Keep your voice calm but firm
Kids raise their voice during tantrums, but eventually would match the voice-level of the adult when communicating. Take this to your advantage and keep your voice calm but firm. The tantrum is more likely to fade away with decreasing decibel levels.
- It’s okay to ignore
Even animals in the wild use this technique when the offspring cross their limits. As long as your child isn’t harming themselves or others it’s ok to give them their space and take no notice. You may set the timer and check on them on and off.
- Divert and distract
Kids usually have a relatively short attention span, making it easier to divert their thoughts. Modes of distracting them include giving them a toy or snack they relish or start on a topic that’d make them forget the outburst. This doesn’t mean you give into their demand. Instead choose options other than what they’re demanding for.
- Change of location
This is ideal if the tantrum begins in a social setting and is likely to disturb the rest. The change of environment might do the trick. Spend some time with the toddler alone until he/she calms down, try point 3 and then take them back into the gathering.
- Take out privileges
This is to be attempted at home. Plus keep this as the last resort after a prolonged tantrum seizes. Give them a firm hug to let them know you’re there for them and communicate to them the consequences of the prolonged tantrum. It could be time-out from one of their favorite activities or not buying them the usual treat.
Whatever technique you may choose to use, remember that correcting them lovingly but firmly carries more weight than choosing to discipline through spanking.
–Written by Rochelle Michael.
Rochelle Michael is an educator by profession who’s passionate about molding children to become environment-conscious leaders in order to maintain a sustainable earth. She is a Language teacher & specializes in Early Childhood Education and is currently reading for her degree in Natural Sciences.