By the time a toddler is 2 they are capable of experiencing a full range of emotions according to studies. But unlike in the case of an older child, a toddler has only now started to cognitively develop and they are still trying to make sense of the feelings that they are experiencing. They are also trying to control them as best as possible. That fact, coupled with a toddler’s limited attention span, results in what seems like a wildly fluctuating emotional seesaw.
The anatomy of a toddler breakdown
At the age of 2, toddlers are taking their first steps toward independence, and their accomplishments will make them overjoyed while their failures will make them alarmed, dissatisfied and also really unhappy. So if you are thinking about why your toddler is having so much drama, it is just because they genuinely are upset.
Parents and emotional education about toddlers
The challenge for parents is to help a child achieve that independence while also helping him manage his emotions, particularly the negative ones. Because a 2-year-old’s feelings come and go so quickly, parents sometimes underestimate their power. Research has found that the children of parents who talk with them about feelings learn how to control their emotions more readily.
What makes a toddler’s perfectly cheerful disposition so easily give way to fits of fury or outbursts of anger? Frustration. Although a 2-year-old is beginning to develop language skills, their ability to communicate is still limited, and often, they can’t make her wishes known clearly. This can lead to a big breakdown even when you still feel like it is a tantrum. In reality your toddlers are facing a situation where they really want to say something but cannot and the only way they know how to let out that frustration is by having a major meltdown.